About self-awareness, growth, and perspective Part 4

Not everybody who lets you down is malicious. Most people can only perceive things and function as profoundly as they have grown. Where there is no growth and perspective, there is superficiality. Therefore, they can not delve into where your essence resides. In such cases, they may seem to always fall short. They may see your discontent as ingratitude as they genuinely do their best. Others may apologise for their shortcoming but continue to fail to meet your expectations. It is not because their apologies are not sincere, but they do not know what they are doing wrong because the aspects you require are beyond their capacity.

They may even psychologically or physically harm you and others due to a lack of self-awareness or insight. Does this mean you and others should forgive them? Yes. Should you continue to be with them? No. A person who is not self-aware or insightful is more challenging to convert than one who can at least see their errors and intentionally hurts you. At least they may stop their action if they want to. However, neither party should be in your life. The problem is not so much the other parties but expecting more than what a person is capable of. Taking responsibility for situations you have not caused is empowering because you can institute the best solution for yourself and others where possible.

That is where being mature and intentional (products of self-awareness) becomes essential. If you want someone to share a healthy or more profound relationship or association with you, it is crucial to choose one with depth so they can dive as far as you do. If they are too deep, you will fail to meet their expectations. So, you must choose someone with a similar depth but ensure they are willing to keep growing and learning so you do not leave them behind if you grow yourself further.